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About Me and Why I Am Here…
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Over the decades, I’ve discovered I learn things from everyone I meet. No matter where you are in life, I hope I can learn from you, and you can learn from me. Besides growing and learning from people, and from schools, some of my best information comes from wonderful and marvelous books. What you are reading at this very moment, is part of my book, Invisible, No More.
For a large part of my life, I tried to be invisible to a stalker bully. For decades, I tried my best to disappear from a person’s binocular-focus on me and on everything I did. Sometimes I remained ‘friendly’ with the bully, in the hopes this tactic would keep me safe. (If a bully is right in front of you or next to you, they can’t stalk you, right?). Sometimes, I remained friendly with a bully because I was under the mistaken impression that this is what a Christian does, ‘forgive, forget the past, get over it’ . These actions, the friendliness, the being careful, the foriveness, these things were only temporary relief, none of it stopped the bully from bullying me or from stalking me after I tried to make myself invisible to the bully, once again.
Finally, after reading all the books and after trying almost all the remedies, a tragedy in my life helped me to realize that all my ‘trying’ to be free, to be safe, all of that wasn’t helping me in the long run.
I still forgave and forgive the person, but I’ve changed the way I live my life. I am finally free.
Enough of my story for now, for this post, I’m focused on how people can help put an end to gossip.
Gossip Kills…
Bet you didn’t know that, right? Haven’t you seen local news stories, of young children and teens, who have killed themselves? Read the stories, look for the beginnings of the stories. Most times, yes, most times, the problems began with someone spreading malicious gossip about the child or teenager. From the gossip, more rumors spread, until that day, until the day the child or teenager broke, completely, and mistakenly thought that suicide was the answer to ending the pain. That’s never the answer and it’s never the solution to any problems.
Be kind; help stop gossip.
How to Stop Gossip
Trust me, you can do this. And you can help without being involved. By walking away from gossip, you can help save lives. Walk away, walk away, and keep on walking.
You Can Help Stop Gossip. Be kind. Do what you can do to stop malicious gossip.
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Here’s how : If you are a person who listens to malicious gossip, you help bullies target their victims, more and more. Be kind; don’t help people bully other people. Key factor…. walk away from malicious gossip. No matter who the is, walk away from serial gossipers.
- As the person begins the malicious gossip, walk away fast or tell them you are not talking about someone who is not even in the room with you.
- Ask the person who the source of the gossip is. Tell the person that you will tell the target, the victim, what is being said about them, and you’ll tell them who said it. And then walk away fast.
- If someone is deliberately trying to ruin someone’s reputation or trying to force isolation on someone, and consistently does that, walk away, walk away, and walk away.
It is only when we continuously turn the tables on bullies and stalkers that we, as a society, can stop hateful people from harming others.
Author Linda Perry 